Stepmothers have a bad reputation. You can thank Cinderella for that. Just remember, we only heard Cinderella’s side. Blended families are fast becoming the new normal family. So if you’ve recently joined the ranks of stepmother–know that you are not alone. According to a recent study, 68 percent of remarriages include children from prior relations. Fortunately, unlike Cinderella’s stepmother, you have a lot of resources available to you. So you are already a head of the game, right? So here are some tips and helpful resources, for those times when you’re feeling overwhelmed, overworked, and under-appreciated.
- Don’t take it personally. Children are evolving creatures. They can say and do hurtful things. You’re the adult, don’t take it personally. Don’t react, educate. Try to remember that children don’t have the coping resources adults have to deal with feelings of anger and jealousy. Journal for Sanity.
- Keep a journal. Write every day and be honest about your feelings. Journaling is therapeutic—it gives you an opportunity to say the things you would never say out loud. Journals give you a safe place to put those thoughts and feelings. In addition, journal entries are like little bread crumbs on the road of life. They are way to back track your path. Where did you start? Where are you now.
- Find and maintain a support group. Not only is their strength in numbers but group wisdom can be powerful. Look for groups in your local area. If you’re in a hurry and need a quick dip in the fountain of stepmother wisdom try: The Step Mom’s Toolbox or Becoming a Step Mom.
